Listen: When resentment builds up in a relationship, it can be difficult to be kind. Turn towards kindness with these simple steps.
If there’s resentment building towards your partner, you may find that you have a negative bias towards them. There is hope! Relationship expert and neuropsychotherapist Joanne Wilson says there are some simple things we can do to help remove the negative bias and show kindness to the one we love.
It’s important to rewire your brain with relationship kindness. Here are Joanne’s top tips to inspire you towards kindness this week.
Get your intentions right
Kindness is the state of caring about other people’s wellbeing and taking action to make others’ lives happier. Be intentional about showing kindness to those around you, and particularly your partner.
Treat your neighbour as you’d like to be treated
This can be difficult in a relationship where there is pent up resentment, causing a negative bias toward your partner. Make sure your background thoughts towards them are postive rather than negative or even vengeful.
See from the perspective of others
Self-regulate so you can access your prefrontal cortex, having clear thinking and being able to listen actively, ensuring you hear your partner’s perspective. When we’re triggered it can be hard to do this.
Practise kindness in small doses
Think about small gestures you can do to create a beautiful foundation for your relationship. For example, what rituals can you create to add a little kindness into your week?
Take a moment
Pause when you feel angry or frustrated. Make sure you have plenty of self-compassion and are looking after yourself so you can calm your mind and control your emotions in difficult conversations.
Try a loving kindness prayerful meditation. Begin each day by spending time with God to pray and clear your mind. He’s there to love and support us through our day.
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